You want your wedding day to be THE one everyone talks about! For your guests to go home feeling like they’ve had a fabulous day full of FUN, love and laughter. AND obviously, you’re going to spend your time joining in on all the shenanigans! You need natural wedding photos to truly reflect your wedding day, EXACTLY as it is!
There’s no doubt you want natural wedding photos but you feel awkward having your photo taken. You couldn’t think of anything worse than spending time away from your guests to stiffly pose in front of a camera…
You may have decided having your photos taken will be the worst part of the day…
In fact, you might want to skip it altogether. And you’re not the only ones!
Last year, during our pre-wedding consultation Martyn asked if they had to have posed photos. Of course, I told him no! If it’s really something you don’t want, then you don’t have to just because everyone else does. It’s YOUR day, YOUR way.
However, he and Alice did want some on the bouncy castle. If you have a bouncy castle at your wedding and you don’t have a photo on it, who even are you?!?
On the day, when the sun was starting to set and while their guests were playing lawn games and getting drinks, I asked them if they’d like 5/10 minutes to themselves away from their guests for a couple of photos. They were totally down for it, so off we trotted and just look at the results!
Are these the kind of natural wedding photos you’re looking for?
To have natural wedding photos like these, you DON’T need to love attention!
You DON’T need to even like having your photo taken.
Also, you DON’T need to feel or be photogenic.
You sure as hell DON’T need to lose weight beforehand!
And you won’t spend your couple photos grinning, bearing it and waiting for it to be over.
So, pop those ideas right outta here!
Before your wedding day you can prepare yourselves by borderline-stalking your choices of photographers. Put the night vision goggles away – I mean via the internet. Take some time to read their About page, understand their style and give them a follow on social media. Are they someone you’d get along with and could help you relax in front of a camera? If so, contact them and ask for a chat, plenty of photographers are more than happy to with no obligation to book!
I LOVE getting to know my couples, more specifically with a cup of tea or a glass of wine – there’s nothing better! I want to hear as much about your wedding as you want to tell me. All of your plans and ideas will be met with nothing other than enthusiasm, excitement and ideas on what fun ways we can photograph them!
Have you considered an engagement shoot?
If you have the budget you could have an engagement shoot with your wedding photographer – this may seem even more outlandish to you because you’re unsure on how to look relaxed on your wedding day photos. But practice makes perfect, the results will really help overcome any fears you have!
I like to think of my engagement shoots as a little adventure with you and your partner, we can go somewhere you’re familiar with or somewhere none of us have been before. That’s totally up to you. We can go for a walk with little stops along the way to make use of light, different back drops, and angles. It really gives you enough time to relax into it. (You can get an exclusive discount for an engagement shoot when you sign up for my newsletter at the bottom of this blog.)
But what about the actual day?
By the time you have your couple photos on your day you’ll be SUPER used to having a photographer around. They’ll be there while you get ready, snapping away without you realising. The most nerve-wracking part of the day (the ceremony) will be over. You’re group photos will be complete, you’ll have had time to greet all your guests and have had a couple of glasses of wine, possibly played some lawn games. So, by the time you do your couple photos you’ll feel a lot more relaxed. They also won’t be taken in front of your wedding guests so it’s a rare opportunity for you to have some quiet time together.
Most couples I work with enjoy the 10 minutes to have a little catch up, reconnect and relax. Remember this isn’t the same as your mum taking your photo – where she takes one and it’s done. I take a LOT of photos and the first ones are hardly ever the best. I only choose the good ones and the rest are gone – you never even have to see the bad ones! I’ll guide you into the best light and backdrop and I’ll talk to you pretty much the entire time so you forget there’s even a camera there.
Last but not least, the main thing you need to take away from this blog is…spend time with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
It’s that simple, just BE yourselves and have an amazing day with the one you love!
You don’t want or need to stare at the camera, and that’s great, because that’s where the awkward smile comes to say hello. Just look at each other, talk and laugh, like you do every day of your lives! A photographer isn’t going to give you the photos they know you’ll hate (unless they’re hilarious!).
You just need to connect with each other.
And finally, if you’re still worried about it – add some props! Examples you can’t go wrong with: a bouncy castle, beer pong, space hoppers (for a race), sparklers, smoke bombs or Saturday Night by Whigfield on the dance floor.
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Venues and vendors who worked on the above weddings in order of appearance:
Venue: Asylum Chapel
Veil: Blossom and Bluebird
Dress: Grace Loves Lace
Hair: Hair by Bethany Alden
Make Up: Becky Make up and Beauty
Flowers: Floral Evolution
Flowers: Amanda Austin Flowers
Venue: Bartholomew Barn
Hair and make up: Tea and Trim
Dress by: Luna Novias from: Fross Wedding Collections
Venue: Tanner Warehouse